Each day we are challenged by various situations such as the copy machine jamming, getting stuck behind a slow driver or a call from your kid's teacher. When you have a rough encounter or crisis you can often feel at your worst. It is easy then to fall into old reactions.
It's easier to be angry than to feel sympathy for someone who knows how to push our buttons. Still, do you like yourself when you are all reactive and upset? Who is the real you, the one who just blows up or the one who can control the temper?
In the context of driving this can have dangerous consequences because you can honk your horn in anger, cut someone off, dodge in and out of lanes and be wreckless. This can have a domino effect on other drivers that get upset at you for your behaviour or even trigger their own pent up emotions.
When you see someone else that is going through road rage or a mini tantrum it is good to stay away and not feed them. Don't try to teach people a "lesson" or try to punish someone. Realize that they are stuck in their own unresolved issues and are just acting them out. Rudeness, aggression and violence are the result of hidden issues that often are not faced.
Driving can be scary if someone is aggressive and being irrational.Also make your safety the priority. When someone is in a bad attitude, don't look them right in the eyes. They will feel challenged or criticized. It is good to not try to teach someone a lesson but instead just stay peaceful inside.
It may not seem possible but through anger management techniques you can have an undisturbed state even when things seem to be bad externally. This doesn't always seem easy to do but when you even consider it , it is very liberating because it means you aren't just stuck in the usual patterns.
By learning anger control tools you not only master the current situation but many other ones. If you can be calm on a long grocery store line then you also will deal better with tension at work or a problem with a credit card etc. You will practice various exercises that you can apply and they'll be noticed by your friends as you change.
Sure you may slip a little or fall into reactions , but your intention to master yourself is the key. Often the roots and seeds are from our childhood and we have gotten stuck in old patterns. Remember these can be transcended and you can find true relief from past behaviors.
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